Months past, some friends and I were discussing about what beauty is. I shared to them how fascinated am I with pretty girls! So I asked them what beauty means to them. One replied, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The two girls, I cannot remember the remarks.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I suppose, this is not a definition. I imagine she was referring to a physical beauty. A common answer to cover up limitations of the physical… of the external. But, somehow this girl was quite closer to the answer that I was looking for.
Yes, beauty is something that is pleasant, whatever the aspect maybe. This might be the reason why I fully admire beautiful women. White-complexioned, an advantage… Chinese-looking… pretty… cutie eyes… longhaired, also a plus… slim… with a sweet smile…do I still lack some features? You may add the list, as you please. Though, I do not limit to white-complexioned ones. There are the tanned ones too! Morenas!
This passion, however, is not restricted to the physical beauty. Yes, a girl maybe physically pretty, but if she is not smart, for me she is not beautiful at all. Attraction always comes just as an introduction to the appreciation of the real beauty. Beauty in the physical manner is non-substantial if it has no source from within… the inner beauty. The inner beauty makes the physical sphere glow, however physically inadequate a person maybe. Physical beauty is nothing if a person lacks a character… charm… smartness… talent… positive outlook… confidence… uniqueness… disposition… decisiveness… determination… integrity… finesse… conviction… et cetera… et cetera…
Vidal Tan in his speech, If I had a daughter, says, “not all women can be beautiful (physically), but all can be charming… while beauty fades with the years, charm grows, mellows and acquires a rich bouquet as her hair turns from black to grey… more often than not, physical beauty is a hindrance rather than a help to her happiness. There is a danger that her beauty would make her selfish, vain, proud, and lazy.”
The book, The Little Prince, projects, what is essential is invisible to the eyes. Then, what is beautiful is invisible to the eyes. Physical beauty is nothing but an “icing” to the cake. It is just an instrument that the sight can get attracted to. But the sight is limited to what is corporeal…to what is tangible. It can only appreciate something that it can see. Hence, it is deceiving.
What is essential is invisible to the eyes. Real beauty transcends the material. It glows. It radiates. It overpowers the physicality. A person may not be physically endowed, but it is his or her inner beauty that blazes! After all everyone is created beautifully! An account, which testifies, that God created everyone equally beautiful. God never created ugly persons. But it is the person himself or herself who chooses to be ugly or beautiful. It is a choice, not a destiny.
I was once assigned to the parish of Fr. Jojo (pardon me I cannot recall his surname). One Easter Sunday, he accounted in his sermon, that resurrection is God’s message to us of giving importance to something beautiful within us. The congregation burst into laughter when he said, that every morning when he wakes up, he faces the mirror and talks to his reflection, saying “gwapo ka!” (you are handsome!). They laughed not because Fr. Jojo was not as good-looking as other priests are, but they laughed because they found in him the character of the real “gwapo”… making oneself confident despite some limitations… a self-affirmation. He said, resurrection is finding meaning to what is essential…He is indeed a real beautiful person!
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder? Fr. Jun Sescon (Chaplain – Sto. Niño de Paz Chapel, Greenbelt, Ayala) would say, beauty is more than the eye to behold.
You are beautiful! Aren’t you?