Advice for financial success

It’s a reality that not all the time life is full of glory. Two years ago, it was announced that our account or department would be dissolved. Of course the first reaction was to get disheartened. It happened again and again. Luckily we are still here. But, I had to come up to a wise decision to rather think of ways on how can I save myself, you know, from an unforeseen disaster. Anytime now, the account would just disappear. Or if not, they will let us disappear!

Two ideas came up to my mind. First, never lose faith to my God. I thought the more that I need Him. I shall prove that I deserve His support. So I would need to do more good than to wallow on frustration. Second, read more books and look for better ideas. We can get free knowledge, so no need to spend some bucks just to obtain that. My common sense came up to the scene. I have searched the net, read books at Powerbooks, interviewed people, and attended free trainings and seminars.

Well, I have with me 5 very important books. I cannot just lose them so I decided to procure them. They are full of basic know-hows and easy-to-follow guidelines. They seem like modules. I just have to follow through step-by-step. They are my new-found bestfriends!…Hehe… (note: please don’t ask their titles or authors. I like to give you the power of searching. Like me, it was my fuel – the hunger for knowledge. So start learning from there. Ok?)

These two ideas have honed my esteem and skills. So far, the effect was good. Thanks to the authors who inspired me more to push through even in times of mishap. And much, to be grateful when in splendor. I affirm… that no matter what, in victory and in defeat, God is our buddy. We cannot fully expect other people to raise us up, but I know God can. Plus, our personal will, perseverance, and determination. All these, equal success. As I mentioned in my previous article: success is not a destiny, it is a journey.

So, let me share some of my inspirational collections. This, I know can also inspire you. Please bear with me if I was only able to present the pen name of the author. I forgot to get the resource link from the net. Anyway, including his name is already an intention of giving him credit.

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Advice for young people who want to be financially successful:
 
You can control your financial destiny, live a good lifestyle, retire with security and grace — even luxury — if you make good decisions and avoid some of the mistakes your friends are making:
 
Plan for a good career.   Don’t just settle for whatever comes along.  You have to make your own way.  If you want financial success, you will have to take responsibility for preparing yourself to earn it through education, developing your skills and abilities,  and improving your worth to an employer or a customer every day.  If you fail to make yourself productive, there is no one else to blame but yourself.
 
Learn the value of saving money.  There are two ways that money is obtained:  1) you can earn it with your labor, ideas, or skills   2) the money you have will earn more money       Obviously, you have to do #1 before you have #2.  But if you never save any money, you will never accumulate wealth.   Don’t confuse making money with having money.  There are a lot of people out there driving a Lexus who will have only their social security or some other handout when they retire.  Start saving now, and let the miracle of compound interest make you rich.
 
Be patient.  Most people who are financially successful started out with nothing, just like you.  It takes patience, determination, and humility to avoid jumping at every temptation.  Every day that you delay buying something is another day that your savings are working for you.  Trust me, you won’t have to wait forever, just for a while. 
 
Don’t go into debt.  Someone who borrows money to buy something always pays more than the person who doesn’t.  That has a “double whammy” effect.  When you borrow money, you not only pay for the luxury of having it when you can’t afford it (interest) but you lose the income your money could have earned if you had delayed the purchase and saved up for it.   The two biggest culprits:  credit card debt and car loans.  Remember this:  If you never make a car payment in your life, you will spend half of what everyone else spends on cars for the rest of your life.  Pay cash for your cars — buy what you can afford — and one day (soon!) you will be able to walk into any showroom and write a check for the car you want.  But if you get in the “car loan” habit, trust me, you will never get there.  Another note:  sales people will try to talk you into buying a car that you can’t afford by selling you a long-term loan.  The payments might seem really affordable, but as soon as you drive off the lot you have immediately lost thousands of dollars, because you now owe more than the car is worth.  If you tried to sell the car the very next day, you would lose a ton of money.  That’s called being “upside down”, and it’s not a good position to be in.
 
Don’t take risks. Risk here is defined as possible life danger. Not risk in investing. Risk in investing is postive. Because the higher the risk the greater the gain or yield. So we usually have to take more risk in investing. (Italics mine) Insurance is necessary.  Saving for emergencies is necessary.  Keeping your job is necessary.  Grades and graduation are critical.  Don’t drink and drive.  Don’t smoke.  Don’t do drugs.  Be honest, don’t break the law.  Pay your taxes.  If you take risks with your money, health, and security, sooner or later you will get burned.  Trust your instincts — if it doesn’t feel right or safe, don’t do it.
 
Get in on your employers retirement plan.  One of the greatest wealth-builders out there is the 401(k) plan offered by most employers.  You take money out of every paycheck before tax is calculated (which means you pay less tax) and your employer will add a “matching” amount.  This money is put into an investment account of your choosing, and it builds like crazy.  Many people are retiring young with a million dollars or more in their 401(k) accounts.  Don’t miss out on this opportunity, and don’t be tempted to “borrow” the money out of your retirement fund for other purposes.
 
Marry someone who shares your economic values.  Divorce is a major cause of financial problems, and disagreements about money often cause divorce.  Your life partner should be your wealth-building teammate, not a financial enemy.
 
It’s important to understand that your future is within your control.  But you have to start now!  Learn all you can, be patient, work hard, and make good decisions.  You can join the millions of Americans who have taken advantage of the opportunity to become wealthy and happy.
 
Big Beanburger

. . .DON’T LOOK BACK

 As You Travel Through Life….

 – Author Unknown –

As you travel through life there are always those times
When decisions just have to be made,
When the choices are hard, and solutions seem scarce,
And the rain seems to soak your parade.

There are some situations where all you can do
Is simply let go and move on,
Gather your courage and choose a direction
That carries you toward a new dawn.

So pack up your troubles and take a step forward -
The process of change can be tough,
But think about all the excitement ahead
If you can be stalwart enough!

There might be adventures you never imagined
Just waiting around the next bend,
And wishes and dreams just about to come true
In ways you can’t yet comprehend!

Perhaps you’ll find friendships that spring from new things
As you challenge your status quo,
And learn there are so many options in life,
And so many ways you can grow!

Perhaps you’ll go places you never expected
And see things that you’ve never seen,
Or travel to fabulous, faraway worlds
And wonderful spots in between!

Perhaps you’ll find warmth and affection and caring
And somebody special who’s there
To help you stays centered and listen with interest
To stories and feelings you share.

Perhaps you’ll find comfort in knowing your friends
Are supportive of all that you do,
And believe that whatever decisions you make,
They’ll be the right choices for you.

So keep putting one foot in front of the other,
And taking your life day by day…
There’s a brighter tomorrow that’s just down the road -
Don’t look back! You’re not going that way!

Desiderata

… a piece hanging on a wall in our dormitory, college seminary.
i suppose, a priest posted this, for us to have a good vision of the future… may we become priests or not… a guiding rule to have a joyful life whatever path we take… power of the will that would keep us stand still over adversities…

Desiderata, Latin for “Things to be Desired.” Felicissima!

 

Desiderata

– written by Max Ehrmann in the 1920s –
 

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible, without surrender,
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even to the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
they are vexatious to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs,
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love,
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

Felicissima!

The Most Important Trait to Find in a Spouse

found this from MSN… good one!.. just read on…

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By the Love Council for iVillage

Want to find long-term love? Then you’re attracted to men who want to be fathers, according to a recent study of college students published in a British scientific journal. More interestingly, you can subconsciously tell which guys fall into that category just by looking at their faces.But if you’re in search of a great mate, you can’t let your subconscious do all the work — you need to involve your conscious mind too. So we asked the Love Council, our panel of experts, to help us determine the single most important characteristic a woman should look for in a spouse. Here’s what they had to say. Cathi Hanauer and Daniel Jones
“What are you willing to sacrifice?”
Cathi:
I’d have to narrow it down to two characteristics: sense of humor and sensibility. Because if you’re picking someone to go through life with – through thick and thin, till death do you part – you want it to be someone with whom you can see the world in a similar way; someone you feel good about being a team with.
 

Chemistry is important too; I won’t lie. But when you’ve just, say, given birth, and you’re exhausted and feeling like you can’t go on another minute, you’ll want someone beside you to make you laugh or to say something profound – not the buff guy who’s being hit on by the drugstore clerk while you’re waiting for him to come back with the Pampers.  

Dan:
Looking for a spouse is like shopping for real estate: You start with an ideal image – a Victorian house in a college town on a street lined with sugar maples. And then, once you see what’s really available, you start figuring out what you’re willing to sacrifice. The wraparound porch? The sugar maples? Similarly, what are you willing to give up when it comes to finding your ideal guy? The six-foot-minimum height? The Ivy League education?
 

They’re maddening mind games until you walk into that perfect house and just know. It’s the same in relationships. There is no one thing. It’s a set of looks and personality and compatibility that simply feels right. He may not be what you’re looking for. But he’ll be the one. And his single most important characteristic won’t be what he has alone but what you share together. 

Dr. Sarah Stedman
“This is as close as you can get to a guarantee.”
The trait that instantly comes to mind embodies what is, for me, at the core of all goodness in human nature: integrity. Having that quality means that a person’s outward behavior is a reflection of inner personal values. It means he will honor those values above all else, even when it would be easier to make other choices. A person with integrity also exemplifies qualities of faithfulness, loyalty, honesty and devotion – all essential to building a successful partnered relationship. 

It has been my observation as a Celebrant that couples who embrace these fundamental characteristics in each other also manifest a deep level of trust and spirituality – about as close as you can get to a guarantee where marriage is concerned! 

 Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW
“Fasten your seat belts; it isn’t pretty.”
Okay, you romantics out there. Fasten your seat belts, ’cause it isn’t pretty. Want to know what to look for in a man who’ll be around for the long haul? It’s his ability to deal constructively with the conflicts that will inevitably arise in your relationship. “Too mundane,” you say? Well, here are the facts. 

Research tells us that spouses in long-term, happy marriages are not soul mates; they have no more in common than those who divorce. However, veteran marrieds know how to effectively deal with their differences. Managing conflict over parenting styles, sex, money or household chores isn’t easy. But the good news is it’s a skill that can be learned. That’s why couples are now taking relationship-skill-building classes in droves. So, if your hubby prospect is willing to learn what it takes to lovingly work through the hard times? Take heart. He’s a keeper.  

Deb Perelman,
“Know which bones are worth picking.”
As a newlywed of 10 months who spends the majority of her time on cloud nine, I cannot believe these words are escaping my fingertips. And yet I’d be remiss if I didn’t share with you this hair-pulling truth: You shouldn’t settle for anything less than a man you can get in a good occasional scrap with. Why so negative, you ask? Have you seen those couples who don’t fight? They’re a scary lot, all clench-toothed and eyes narrowed when the other one leaves a dish out… again. And then there are those couples who battle all the time. They’re miserable, and so is everyone around them. 

A healthy, happy couple knows which bones are worth picking and when to pick them, and they always have an exit strategy. They take turns being the peacekeeper. They itch for the argument to pass. So forget tall, dark or handsome. A good temperament is what’s really hard to find.

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